Is it really attractive for a female to be in a relationship with a guy who is in jail ? Everyone has their own opinion . Here’s mine - that shit is wack . Truthfully . I feel like there is no gain on the end of the female if she is holding a man down . In a nutshell , the woman receives all the losses . The man was given the chance while outside of jail to do what he had to do in order to NOT go to jail . Why should the woman ode spoil him when he goes in ? Putting all of HER hard earned money into his commissary . ( A loss for her ) . Paying for trips to take visits upstate . ( Another loss ) . Paying extra money to be able to talk to him on the phone cus of collect calls , or having to go out & buy a specific phone to talk with him . ( Another loss ) . Just so that man can have it easier while in jail ? Okay , why ? WHY should he have it easier ? Him going to jail made it harder for you ! Now , the FEMALE has to sleep alone at night . Now , the FEMALE is frequently worrying about her mans well being while he’s locked up . Now , the FEMALE is coming up short on her funds . Now , especially for those that have children with these jail birds , the FEMALE must take care of the kids alone . So , what does a woman really get out of holding a man down in jail ? A ring ? Claiming rights ? That’s bullshit , half the time the dude gets out & shits on the female . Then it becomes the same thing all over again . I have this girl on my IG . She’s my age , 19 . She is so PROUD to be holding her boyfriend down , while he’s in jail . Just about every day , she posts something about a visit she went on , she posts about their plans when he comes home . She even recently compared herself to Yandy Smith , stating that ” real bitches do real things ” & claiming that she too , dropped 200K to bail her man out of jail the first time he’d gotten locked up 😐 . ( I don’t believe that ) Now , if that isn’t pathetic enough , let me get into what disgusts me most about the whole scenario . Everyone knows that this young girl has a son , who is about 4 or 5 years old . The last post I’ve ever seen pertaining to her son was Christmas . Shortly after Christmas , she made an entire new IG page . I have not seen her post not ONE photograph of the boy since . Not even a post talking about her son , acknowledging that she even has one . So disgusting ! I understand that people make mistakes . I also understand , that we all fall in love . Furthermore I understand what it’s like to fall in love hard , because I do it too . But there’s a bigger picture here , at least I feel that there is . A man & a woman who truly love each other will work hard together so that they don’t have to face this experience in the first place . A woman can meet a man & he could be a piece of shit . She cannot change that . It is his choice to figure out whether or not he wants to change for her . I feel like a man that really loves his woman is going to do what he has to do to keep himself out of prison and active inside of his woman’s ( and if they have children ) life . And I feel like a woman who loves her man will be on point making sure that her man is doing what he has to do to keep himself out of prison . I know that for some people and their cases the woman holding down her man will result in her receiving a ring . Some women get ” mad props ” for it . However , I feel that it is essential to differentiate what is worth it or not . Differentiate what is important & what is not . I would not marry a man that went to jail on me . Maybe depending on a very unique circumstance . But , the regular he was selling drugs ? Illegal guns ? Grand theft auto ? Robbery ? Gang affiliation ? All of that immature shit , absolutely not . First thing is first : I COULDN’T BE WITH SOMEBODY LIKE THAT FROM THE GET GO . And I damn sure would not brag and show pride about holding down a man like that down in jail . That is some very bird like shit . I’m not judging anybody . To each his own and every body’s journey in life is about something different . Nonetheless I do think that more females should take the time and think about what she’s sacrificing when she decides to stick with a man who is in jail .